How many times have you done something for your partner and not get acknowledged or appreciated for it?
We’ve all been there before. We put in the time and the effort and it all goes unnoticed. They just don’t appreciate it.
But often times, they don’t even see it…
You can blame “modesty” for it.
Imagine that it’s your partner’s birthday and you’re preparing a gift for him. You look everywhere online for ideas. You drive to the mall and spend hours finding the perfect gift. You call up your friends and ask them for suggestions.
After hours of walking, your legs give out. And still no results.
Tomorrow’s another day.
Finally when you find the perfect gift and present it to your partner. He thanks you for the gift and gives you a hug and a big kiss.
A few weeks later, it’s collecting dust on his desk.
Then you start to feel like he doesn’t appreciate you.
Now here’s my question: did you ever tell him the story about what you went through in order to get his perfect gift?
If you don’t, how is he ever going to find out?
There’s no way for him to completely appreciate what you’ve done for him if you don’t tell him the whole story behind it. This also applies to you if you’re the guy and she’s your lady.
We’ve got to paint the whole picture behind our efforts. There’s always a story behind it and yet we only present the final outcome. Some people may think that talking about this is like trying to get credit for it.
In some sense, it is. And that’s fine. You SHOULD be acknowledged and appreciated for everything that you do. Sharing these things can also help the two of you bond.
So what do you do if a similar scenario comes up again?
TELL THE STORY.
What did you do? Who did you talk to? How long did it take?
He’ll appreciate you that much more if he knows the kind of trouble you had to go through just to make him happy.
How would you react if the tables were turned and he told you his stories?
“Oh, he’d never do that.” You might say.
And that’s why you’ll never know how much you mean to him.